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I'm going to be honest: I have ebbs and flows of consistency with this blog. One moment, I'll have a major burst of energy and I'll write...

Yesterday I had the pleasure of going to church and seeing my friends. It was Easter Sunday and my church allowed groups of 40 people to...

Can I make a confession? I'm obsessed with weave. I love the versatility of hair options weave provides. I also love the wide array of...

Where does your "type" come from? You know your "type." That idealized version of the person you'd want to date, marry or the people that...

I've been double-dutch jumping in and out of online dating lately. Some days I jump in, excitedly downloading every app from Tinder to...

"You look tired." "Tired? Girl, tired?! I've literally been chilling for two weeks. I've slept, I've leisured; I've self-cared, and the...

It's about your heart. And I learned this because of the "only-possible-through-God" changes that have happened in my heart since I...

Ah, Box Braids: the venerable protective style that has been a major ingredient of Black Girl Magic Sauce for centuries now. Box braids....

I made the jump to YouTube and created a series called "The Purpose Talks with Lourdes Anita". Yikes! On "The Purpose Talks," I interview...

In Philippians 2:12, the Bible tells us to “continue to work out your own salvation with fear and trembling”. And while I have read this...

On my very early morning flight, I was listening to the worship song “Give Me You” by Shana Wilson, which I do not recommend you do if...

I was “ghosted” recently. And it got me questioning: “What’s up with ghosting?” It all started when I was approached by a dating prospect...

Is it just me or is there something about getting older that sobers your thinking and makes you question, "Am I on the right track?"...

I could feel his desert-dry breath brush against my recently exfoliated cheek; that’s how close he was to me. I could feel the impact of...

I've been celibate for the greater part of seven years and it's been mostly smooth sailing. But, if I may, I'd like to be honest: For...

You ever have a mind-blowing conversation? Like the type of conversation that rocks you and leaves you wondering, "Who sent you and how...

So y'all know I've been about these financial goals lately. I've been actively paying off debt, saving money where I can and most...

It happens every time I meet a man: He's cute. I'm cute. He's feeling me. I'm feeling him. We exchange numbers, partake in light kee-kees...

Happy New Year and all that good stuff. It's the year of our Lord 2019, and I've been trying to start it off right by fasting, praying...

In a maximum-security prison at that. Thankfully I wasn't there serving time, but, unfortunately because of the inconsistencies of our...

I've been subtly wilding lately. I haven't been doing the most, but I have been slowly picking up habits that are, at their core, subtle...

And I still have more to go. While I’m only half way done with my debt-free journey, I’m feeling pretty accomplished right now. Last year...

You know why I'm sure? Because that's exactly what my greatest temptation looks like: Light skinned with light brown freckles and the...

The short answer? No. The longer answer? Well, kinda, but not consistently. I've been thinking about this "gifts" thing pretty heavily...

Shout out to Mannie Fresh and them… I’ve always been big on fashion. I love getting dressed up and putting outfits together. I love the...

So remember when I told y'all I'm on this debt-free journey and I'm giving up my car to help it? Well, update: As the date to give up my...

Where have you been? What happened to your blog? Are you still writing? Sigh. These are all the questions I've gotten lately. I've been...